how do I get unstuck in my life, career or relationship?

how do I get unstuck in my life, career or relationship?

“The hand you are dealt is just the starting point for development.” —Carol Dweck

A growth mindset is simply our belief that a set of skills can be approved upon if we put in the time and effort.
It’s not magic, and it’s certainly not luck.
But if we don’t exert the required effort, we remain stuck.

But how do you know that you ARE stuck? Everyone is different but I think it can show up as job/relationship/body dissatisfaction. It can show up as anger towards those around you who you see “succeeding”. If you connect with any of these, it might be a sign that you need to start working on growing your mindset.

A mind at rest tends to stay at rest while a mind in motion tends to stay in motion so let’s get moving!!!

Here’s my top tips for moving that mind:
1. Practice sitting in silence with your own thoughts (aka meditation). There is no right or wrong, no measurement of success here. Quiet time to think and reflect or just be will help grow your mindset.

2. So will exercise.
Walking, getting outside, any kind of movement for any amount of time is good for the mind. Just start.

3. Stop. Collaborate and Listen.
Start paying attention to your thoughts. When you catch yourself feeling jealousy or hate or even just judgment towards someone, ask yourself why. Is it because you wish you were in their shoes? Is it because you want to be as outspoken, liked or confident as they are? What’s the reason and listen real good. Then turn it around. Start telling yourself the story that you can. Start believing it because the mind doesn’t know the difference between reality and not and when you start feeding it the story you want, it will turn INTO your reality.

4. Keep notes.
Don’t just focus on the outcome - you must learn to appreciate all the steps along the way. You couldn’t jump to the top of Mt. Everest from the bottom just to say you made it! The steps along the way are what you learn and grow from. It teaches you resiliency and grit. It teaches you to not get ahead of yourself. It teaches you to grow.
Take five minutes nightly and write down a few things you did that day that are getting you closer to a goal. Be thankful for the ability to take those steps no matter how small.

5. Change your language and you’ll change your thoughts.
Start practicing with the word “yet”. “I can’t do that.” becomes “I can’t do that, yet.” Take the word TRY completely out of your vocabulary. Try is a safety net - it leaves room for you to duck out and not commit to you. To try is to fail. Just do and do it for you!

I hope this helps - it takes practice! Like learning to ride a bike or walk for the first time, it’s just one foot (or thought in this case) in front of the other every single day. And one day you’ll just notice that you just go there in your head. That you’re more confident, achieving goals, doing things you maybe never thought you could! Growth mindset doesn’t go away, it’s something you’ll carry on with you forever AND remember when I said it wasn’t magic? Well, it kind of is because it has this ability to jump from you to someone else. Watch how your circle starts to become enlightened and how it spreads like wildfire.

If you’re looking for a kick in the pants and you want a little challenge that will help you get going - click on over to our 28 days to Elevate challenge. It’s ready when you are!
Xoxo, Gwen



How to Paint a Modern Rainbow Wall

How to Paint a Modern Rainbow Wall
I am of the mindset that paint is just paint, and you can paint over it if you don't like it....BUT, when it comes to my daughters' room, I I wanted to maintain a calm vibe because at the end of the day, I want them to be able to relax and go to sleep. That's ultimately the number one goal of any child's bedroom if you ask me - sleep!

Did you know there are COLOR PSYCHOLOGISTS?  See, you can create any job to fit your passions! Ok but truthfully, any good home interior designer will tell you that color matters in a room. I always recommend painting your child's room a with a calming palette to help prevent overstimulation and anxiety and promote calming, relaxation and learning instead. Not sure how to do this? Get in touch with. a. color expert like Beverly Ferguson of The Reflective Designer.

And let's touch on how your paint brand makes a huge difference -  Ben Moore is what we use every time because it's a quality paint that will always serve you well. We chose Ben Mooore Cloud White for the base of the walls - because you can'. have a rainbow without clouds, am I right? Then I went searching for color inspo i.e. browsing Pinterest and creating a color board to help me organize my thoughts and ideas. Check out our color board here!

A few tips to help you plan:
1. You'll want to decide how big you want your rainbow and how many stripes you want. 
2. You'll also want to decide whether you want spaces between your stripes or if you want your stripes to touch.  
3. Consider if you want your rainbow to span two walls like we did here, or just one wall. 

I wanted this rainbow to look more like watercolor brush strokes and more of a "free-hand paint" rather than uniform colored in stripes. I'll share more about how I did that towards the end.

The colors I chose for the stripes were:

Once you decide on your stripe colors, I recommend getting out a piece of paper and painting them in a few different variations to see the order of the colors you prefer in your stripes.

THEN you're ready to start planning! I drew the first line where I thought I wanted it, took a step back and looked at it to see how it looked from a far. I had to adjust it a little to get it to my liking. I recommend using a light colored pencil and NOT a pencil. Some of these rainbow stripe colors will not be dark enough to hide the pencil line.

Then I ripped up small pieces of painters tape and placed them on my line. This really allows you to see the heigh and width and know if you're on the right track. It's all eyeballs at this point friends! Trust your gut and just go with it, try not to focus on perfection. Your kids will love it no matter what! Once you've got that down, you can take long pieces of painters tape, cut slits in it and follow your first line. This allows the painters tape to "bend" around the lines a little. Don't be afraid to peel up and reposition as needed.

From there I made myself a little guide with a piece of cardboard about the width I decided I wanted all my stripes. You can free-hand this of course and not keep the widths the same, but for ease I wanted a guide. I taped my light colored pencil to my guide and ran it along the shape of the first line to mark my second line.  Then with a little space, I did my next line, and so on until I had all my lines drawn on the wall.

Now you can get to taping the rest of the lines. I will not lie, this part took the longest. What a pain in the butt haha but it was worth it!

Now you're ready to paint! To get my stripes to look a little water color-ey I had a cup of water next to my paint and a painters tray. I would dip the paintbrush in the water and then mix in some paint on the painters tray. Find a consistency you're happy with and brush it on! Don't worry about it being perfect, watercolor often has variations in color and areas that don't grab as much paint as others. Just. go with your heart here and get to work.  I even let the kids paint inside the lines too!

Repeat this for all of the stripes. I prefer to immediately remove my painters tape. I don't like to wait because paint can dry quickly and then stick to the painters tape therefore pulling off a little when you remove the tape.  Just my 0.02 :)

VOILA! A fun, modern rainbow wall that is still aesthetically pleasing and calming.  Now we need some shelves, maybe a few framed pics and other room decorations to complete the look.

What do you think? Will you be trying a rainbow wall of your own? To see the entire video from start to finish, click on over to my Instagram!